She never said she was ok with the sexual abuse of her daughter nor that she was ok with Sterns that he'd sexually abused her daughter!
How about the way the detective referred to the sexual abuse as a "sexual relationship"?
Or Chris Sterns having characterized it as an "inappropriate relationship"?
It still rubs me the wrong way, I mean, WTH?
If I get time, maybe honestly next week or late this week, I will link it. She says it but more by omission and saying how the murder is only what would make him evil, the other is different to her. There is little other way to take it imo.
I did not like the detective referring to it as a relationship, totally agree or could they be having a relationship, etc.? Many people have pointed that out out there and I agree. However, it also could be intentionally said that way to JS because saying did you know he was molesting, SAing, Ring your daughter, etc. is not going to result in an answer and one has to admit when they could have honed in and used a harsher tactic, they soft pedaled her.
I don't recall that specific remark from his dad but don't dispute it, he very well may have put it that way.
IMO JS with the detective basically said without really saying she was fine with the SA and he was only evil if he killed her. I beg to differ and it was not a good look and how anyone can still think such at that point, I don't know. And her reason for the rule of no sleepovers with him... That was quite a thing in the interview too, and I think she knew something had went on even in MS's early years. It is difficult for me to look at it any other way after hear HER say as she said.
I haven't felt this way all along but I am leaning that way now as more is gleaned.
You know there are women who think men will just be men and women that also will accept something and even later as the child gets older blame the child for being flirtatious, etc. Jenn put a rule in placee, that she broke, for a reason imo.
Again if I get a chance I will link some days from now the exact portion of a lot of this.
The detective said to her, he would never need that kind of rule and that something had to prompt the need for one. The first time she pivoted the question or seemed not to get it and then he went back to it. You don't need one if nothing ever happened because most parents would never even consider it an option or necessary to make such a rule. Their kid simply would never be alone with the person. Probably not phrasing it right but this was really a damning thing to me and the whole conversation of a few minutes about all these things...
I also don't know how you can face the SA, accept, absorb, and be whatever with it if you did not know but still think or believe he may not have killed her. WHO was with her for goodness sakes? Who came to town? Who did she sleep with? Who "took" her to school (not)? The very person you've seen now pics of and were told threw her things in the dumpster and was SAing her for years? So why still at that point in this defense of him?
I mean at minimum as the detective also pretty much said, she is picking him still over her daughter...
I can't fathom it, I'm sorry. And I do think she knew or there had been things noticed before, hence the rule, that she broke when she selfishly needed something... That rule was not abided by anyhow imo. And what's the difference if you send your daughter to bed with a man alone or is alone with him during waking hours unchecked on...
For me, I've stayed open on her and am just taking in what comes and then adjusting my opinion. I am not convinced she did not know of the murder either nor a plan for it. I have not decided that yet though and it could still go either way but I sure am leaning towards she knew of the SA and in her head it may be was also on her daughter and after all, she feared a Woody Allen thing.
I know you are fine with a strong discussion and I love that about you. And you never take anything as if intended personally. Maybe one day the world will revert to that although I doubt it lol.